Prevention Strategies

You may be surprised to find out parents actually have MORE influence over their tweens and teens than sports and entertainment celebrities, the internet, and even friends. In fact, studies show that kids who learn about the risks of drugs and alcohol from their parents and caregivers are up to 50% less likely to use drugs and alcohol than those who do not. These studies also show that the fear of disappointing parents is the number one reason tweens and teens decide not to use.

Here are a few ways you can build a positive relationship with your kids and start talking to them about alcohol and drugs.

Talk with your kids often and maintain good communication.

Why? The better you know your children, the easier it will be to guide them towards positive activities and friendships.

How?

  • Talk to your children every day. Share what happened to you and ask what happened to them during the day.
  • Ask questions that kids can’t answer with “yes” or “no,” such as “what was your favorite part of the day?” Ask your children their opinions and include them in making decisions. Show your children that you value their thoughts and input.
  • Be ready to talk to your children as early as the fourth grade, when they may first feel peer pressure to experiment with alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes. Have regular conversations with consistent messages about the risks of alcohol and other drugs.
  • Practice how you will respond to tough questions.
  • Listen to your child’s or teen’s concerns nonjudgmentally. Repeat them to make clear that you understand. Don’t preach.

Get involved in your children’s lives.

Why? Young people are less likely to get involved with drugs when caring adults are a part of their life.

How?

  • Spend time doing something your children want to do every day.
  • Support your children’s activities by attending special events, like recitals and games, and praising them for their efforts.
  • Help your children manage problems by asking what is wrong when they seem upset and letting them know you are there to help. When your child seems angry or upset, start a conversation with an observation like “you seem sad” or “you seem stressed.”
  • Be empathetic about problems with friends.
  • Have dinner together at least four times a week.
  • Get to know your child’s friends and their parents.
  • When your child is going to someone’s house, make sure an adult will be home.
  • Encourage your child to call any time they feel uncomfortable.

Make clear rules and enforce them consistently.

Why? Research shows that when parents set harsh rules or no rules, kids are more likely to try drugs.

How?

  • Talk to your child about rules at a calm time. Explain the rules, for example what time they must come home, and the consequence for breaking the rule.
  • If a rule is broken, be sure to enforce the consequences. This teaches children to take responsibility for their actions.
  • Give praise when your children follow rules and meet expectations.

Here are some responses to common excuses and arguments:

  • “You’re the only parent who won’t let me…” (I am sorry you feel that way, but that is the rule in this house.)
  • “I didn’t know I was supposed to be home at… “ (You do now.)
  • “It’s not mine, I was holding it for a friend… “ (You’re still responsible.)
  • “I swear, it was the first time I tried it… “(Bad things can happen on the first time.)
  • “That teacher/person in charge is out to get me…“ (That is irrelevant.)
  • “Why don’t you trust me? … “ (Your trust bank account is low right now. Here’s what you can do to make a deposit.)

Be a positive role model.

Why? Children imitate adults.

How?

  • Demonstrate ways to solve problems, have fun, and manage stress without using alcohol or drugs.
  • Point out examples of irresponsible behavior, such as ones you see in movies or hear in music.
  • Remember that you set the example. Avoid contradictions between your words and your actions. Use alcohol in moderation, don’t smoke cigarettes, and never use drugs.
  • Use prescription drugs properly.

Help your children choose friends wisely.

Why? When children have friends who don’t engage in risky behaviors, they are likely to resist them too.

How?

  • Help your kids feel comfortable in social situations.
  • Get to know your children’s friends and their families.
  • Involve your children in positive group activities, such as sports teams, scouting troops, and after school programs.

Other activities include:

  • Community Service – Volunteering and getting involved in the community give a sense of purpose, and expand your child’s awareness of the world.
  • Sports – Keeping active in sports provides physical, mental and emotional benefits, and keeps kids from getting bored.
  • Art, Drama and Music – Creative expression and friends with common interests can help a child develop a talent and increase self-confidence.

Talk to your children about drugs.

Why? When parents talk to their kids early and often about substance abuse, kids are less likely to try drugs.

How?

  • Short discussions go a long way. Engage your children in a conversation. Ask what they know, how they feel, and what they think about the issue.
  • Talk to your children one-on-one and together.
  • Educate yourself about alcohol, tobacco, and drug use before talking to your children. You will lose credibility if you don’t have your facts right.
  • Set some time aside for you and your child to act out scenarios in which one person tries to pressure another to drink alcohol, smoke, or use a drug. Figure out two or three ways to handle each situation and talk about which works best.

When?

  • Any time you spend together is the perfect time for a conversation.
  • Establish an ongoing conversation rather than giving a one-time speech.

What should I say?

  • Explain the effects of drugs on the body and the legal consequences of using drugs.
  • Make it clear that you don’t want your kids to use drugs and that you will be disappointed if they do.
  • Discuss why using drugs isn’t okay. Explain that it’s against the law for a child or teen to use alcohol or cigarettes and that using drugs is always illegal—for good reason.
  • Explain how drug use can hurt people in several ways—for example, the transmission of AIDS through shared needles, slowed growth, impaired coordination, accidents.
  • Discuss the legal issues. A conviction for a drug offense can lead to time in prison or cost someone a job, driver’s license, or college loan.
  • If any of your children have tried drugs, be honest about your disappointment, but emphasize that you still love them.